sometimes people claim to be apologizing to me when their words sound more befitting of a politician than real person or a friend... but they seem to think that i am a real bitch for feeling that way.
i wonder, what do other people think an apology is or isn't? what can it include and what is unacceptable? am i a heartless bitch? well, that may be so either way, but i'd still like your opinions on the subject.
how acceptable are each of these things in an apology?
1 = unacceptable (you would not accept any apology that included this or that you would not consider anyone who was saying/doing this to be genuinely apologizing.)
3 = neutral/don't care
5 = necessary (you would consider this to be an essential part of an apology and anyone who did not include this would not be giving you something you would consider to be a true apology or you would not accept an apology that did not include this.)
Poll #772951 apologies
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: Allan expression of their personal fault/responsibility an expression of remorse evidence that they understand what they did wrong or what you are upset about a brief explanation of what happened a long, detailed explanation of what happened an expression of their helplessness or inability to have done things any differently (e.g. "i couldn't help it" or "there was nothing i could do") an expression of their helplessness/inability to do things any differently next time self berating statements (e.g. "i'm such an idiot" or "i'm a total asshole") the words "i'm sorry" the words "please forgive me" flowers, a gift, or some sort of compensation (money, sex acts) an expression of having learned a lesson or a promise to not do it again (or at least to try) the act of actually not doing it again an acceptance of your right to reject their apology Anything else you think is either necessary or unacceptable? (please state which) | 
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